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Let's Talk Goals

Let’s talk about how important they are but also, how challenging.

Over on my Instagram account (@RaeLynnFry), I have the quote,

“You measure the size of the accomplishment by the obstacles you have to overcome to reach your goals.”

That gem was spoken by the AMAZING Booker T. Washington (seriously, if you don’t know who he is, I encourage you to educate yourself). Another one of my favorite quotes of his is,

“No race can proper till it learns that there is as much dignity in tilling a field as in writing a poem.”

We often think of setting the goals and the result from achieving them. Most of the time, we (or at least, I) don’t think about all the in-between stuff. I don’t think of what I will need to do or rearrange or overcome in order to check off that goal.

So what about today’s quote? What does it mean and how can we use it to better set and achieve our goals? Let’s break it down.

The size of the accomplishment = the obstacles you have to overcome

I love this, because it tells us that our goal is not measured but the size of the goal itself, but by the journey you have to take to obtain it.

For me, it’s very challenging to get uninterrupted time by myself to write or work on my author business. I have a full-time job (often more than full time), I am married, I have two kiddos. I’m part of The Writer Community founders and we are a group of ambitious young ladies that have an amazing array of things we are working on. I am also a very social person and have personal activities I do.

There are literally not enough hours in the day or days in the week. My routine is not a routine but a juggling act where an outside power randomly throws new items into my juggling (often it’s a sharp set of knives or a running chainsaw, but sometimes it’s a cute, furry, baby bunny). So, for me to carve out that time to get things done, I have to overcome a lot.

On the flipside, someone who doesn’t have as much going on (or, perhaps, a different set of obstacles), may be able to achieve that same goal a lot easier.

Does that mean my goal is more important or better than the other person’s because I have to overcome more? No, not at all. But what’s cool, is the accomplishment for me is so much bigger (which is fine, because we set goals in all shapes and sizes). It feels AMAZING when I achieve it.

So don’t think that just because your goal (getting a couple of hours to work) is smaller than someone else’s, doesn’t mean that it’s not important or that there won’t be a huge sense of accomplishment at the end of the road.

Keep focused on your goals and what they mean to you and your life.

We are not here to use others as our measuring stick.

We are all valuable and talented and an inspiration to someone else around us. Remember that and reach those goals!


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